four people you will meet in life

How many have you found?

1. Yourself (first & foremost)
2. The one you love most.
3. The one who loves you most.
4. The one you spend the rest of your life with.

First, you must find yourself.
Learning to love yourself is the basis for accepting anything good in your life. Seriously, you can say all the affirmations you want, do the dances, follow the instructions, and work through any of the mazes God has put you through, but if you don’t love yourself FIRST, the work you are doing or have done will fall on shallow ground (trust me). Learning to love YOU is the most important piece of an inner work and is the starting point for everything else. Learn to love yourself FIRST and everything else will fall into place. Once you love yourself, you learn to be gentle with yourself and understand that you are perfect in the eyes of others. You must first love yourself before you can fully love another. If you don’t think you’re worth loving, who can love you? Before you can truly receive and enjoy the love from another human being, love yourself. It’s worth it at the end. Though you may be in a relationship already, loving yourself puts you in a place where you can more easily express love to another person as well as opening yourself up to the world.

As soon as you are willing to love yourself, you’ll then be ready to find 2, the one you love most. The one that’s safe to say “your first love”. The one where you seriously put your heart into the relationship. You put your blood, sweat and tears into it and might not get what you put in, back. Sucks huh? Well first love are usually bitches. But eventually you’ll get over it. Since you somewhat know how love feels, (and I say somewhat because you haven’t really experienced love altogether, yeah giving love but now it’s experiencing the receiving) you can then find person 3, the person who loves you most. Now this is the point in time where YOU play the role of the heartbreaker (of course not intentionally) . The other person may be putting his/her blood, sweat and tears but YOU might not be as much. You know the whole “we’re not on the same page” or “It’s not you, it’s me” dealio. When you’ve experienced the feeling of “loving another” and “being loved,” you’ll then know what it is you need most. Now this is when and where you make the “listing criteria” or the “what I look for in a guy/girl” or rearranging your list of “my type of guy/girl”. I mean you first go through a variety of dates, one night stands (and I don’t mean sexually either, if you want by all means go ahead), dealing with heartbreaks and being the heartbreaker, yeah the cycle (familiar much). After the LONG search, you MIGHT just find the person who is most suitable for you, to be able to spend the rest of your life with. The person that you love and decides to love you back. Congratulations, you found yourself person 4.

Sadly, in real life, these three people are usually not the same person.
(let’s face it, you’ll be lucky if they are) Imagine that. The person you love the most, who loves you most and the person you spend the rest of your life with ALL MOLDED INTO ONE. If you do find that person, please let me shake your hand and call you a lucky S-O-B (you wouldn’t get offended, trust me. It’s rare when you find such a person). In the end, you find yourself in this predicament (not intentionally). The one you love most, doesn’t love you. The one, who loves you most, is NEVER the one you love most. The one you spend your life with,
ends up never being the one you love most nor the one who loves you most.
They’re just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time.

Here’s something to muse over.
So which person are you in other people’s lives? Will it hurt if you’re playing the role of loving someone and that person not quite loving you as much or not loving you back at all? Will it hurt if you’re playing the lead of a person that someone loves most but you don’t feel the same way? (in other words, the title of the heartbreaker) OR are you the lucky bastard that gets to play the main portrayal in someone’s life. Being the person someone loves so much and loving them back, settled. No person will purposely have a change of heart. At the point in time when the person loves you, they really do love you. But when the person doesn’t love you anymore, they really don’t. When the person loves you, they can’t pretend that they don’t and vice versa. When the person no longer loves you, there’s no way they can pretend they do. Love is not possessive, “if you like the moon, you can’t just take it down and put it in your basin, but the moonlight still shines upon you.” When a person doesn’t love you and wants to leave you, let them leave you. ACCEPT IT. You must tell yourself if you also don’t love that person anymore, do not keep them just to save your pride, just let it go. You can’t string along two people in a relationship. You have to meet eachother halfway. 50/50. If you, however still love that person, you should wish them nothing but happiness, and hope that they will be with the one they love most and not stop them from it. If you stop them from finding true happiness with the one they love, it shows you already don’t love that person, and if you don’t love them, what rights do you have to blame them for a change of heart? In other words, when you love a person, you can use other methods of possessing the person. Let them become a permanent memory in your life. If you really love a person, you must love them for what and for who they are. Love them for their good points, and the bad. For the mistakes they make, and for the wrong doings. You can’t wish for them to become what you like them to be just because you love them. If they can’t change to become what you like them to be, you simply don’t love them anymore. When you really love a person, you cannot find one reason why you love them. The only thing you know, that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood, you will wish to have this person be with you.

Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, not always be on the receiving end. Being away from each other is a type of test.

(not mine)